Dating Tips for Creating Relationships

September 28th, 2008

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by Vin DiCarlo
Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.And it’s quite sad. There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend. But I had my head up my ass. …maybe that’s a little harsh. But this comes down from TWO distinct problems: First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing. I’ve accepted what I am. Sure, I like comic books and video games. But… Do you think women have cooler interests? Is Myspace, shopping and getting drunk any cooler than what I’m into? It’s all have connection. Self-acceptance is what really matters. A girl won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself first. Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself? She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you. Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser? Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!” Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that’s in my experience. And I am one of them. The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you. It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now. But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better. Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn’t end after your opener, after a few dates, after “making love.” It never ends that way. Because that’s you. You are not separated from your game. Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are. “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward” you might be thinking. I disagree. That’s not you. That is the vague you. That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express. Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn’t keep girls around after sleeping with them. I’m not conscious about shaping. Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape. In fact, it’s self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you. As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man. But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality. So if you come to a woman and treat her like she’s on a pedestal, she will act accordingly. If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way. Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so. This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life. Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want. I remember all the crappy, frustrating I used to have. Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again. But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together. The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with. If you’re struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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