The Real Cost Of A Divorce Goes Beyond The Pocketbook

September 20th, 2008
by Alex Archer
We all hear it too often. Boy meets girl, both fall in love and decides to get married, down the road someone gets involved with an affair, one party is severely hurt by an affair and pushes for a divorce. Marriage ends and there goes another point to the board that says “Happy Endings Are Myth” and along with it paying the high cost of divorce, financially or emotionally.In today’s society, divorce has become commonplace. In the old days, people would get annulments, that would say that the marriage was never really valid and could be considered to have never happened. Today, however, people getting a divorce agree to end a marriage legally. Some married couples see divorce as a “magic wand” to solve the problems, whatever they may be, in their relationship, but sadly many choose this step without realizing the high price each pays, both in terms of money and hurt feelings. Another common misunderstanding about divorce is that most people think that divorces will be over in a short period, and they can continue living they’re lives as if nothing happened. We’ll the fact is that the average divorce last for about two years and most of the time costing more financially than first imagined. The financial cost of divorce differs from cases to cases. Although, most lawyers would tell you that the cost of a one-day trial would be around $3,000. That’s the just for the lawyers alone. If you think of tagging along expert witnesses, the fees would significantly over and above that. What most divorce parties overlook is the unseen cost of the divorce. Separation means new rental or mortgage payments. New auto loans and other monthly living cost. Also, never forgot about new alimony and/or child support payment. It is best that you thoroughly prepare yourself for the cost of divorce, financially or emotionally or you will be in a deeper sink whole than first started. Then there’s the emotional cost of the whole ordeal that could lead to serious psychological problems. Divorce process encourages the focus of the past. Past mistakes, past problems and past disagreements. This diverts the attention of the present, resulting both parties slide to deeper anger and discontent with each other, reinforcing the problem rather than finding a solution. Throughout the divorce process, each party will also likely feel a need to blame the other, reinforcing the sense of wrongdoing and victimhood. Instead of taking responsibility to fix the problem, a divorce encourages a person to place the blame for the marital stress on the other person. This could lead to a feeling of not being able to do anything about, helplessness, and all too often, clinical depression.
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