Wise Sayings To Help You Move Past Infidelity

November 12th, 2008
by Alex Archer
Many sayings have been around for years, but they have remained true throughout changes in culture and society. They are as applicable today as they were the first time they were spoken or written. There are six old adages that especially apply to surviving infidelity in your relationship.You cannot see the forest because of the trees. This adage applies to how you feel when you first find out about the infidelity. The infidelity becomes the only thing we can focus on. We only see our hurt, anger and pain, not why the situation happened. Try to step back from the situation and see it as a whole. Look at what happened in and around the situation rather than just at the infidelity itself. Experience is the best way to learn. Once you learn to focus on the forest rather than the tree, take time to grow from the experience. It is easy to play make believe as a child or young person, but you will never understand the feelings, emotions, and passions inside of you until you experience them. Decide with your partner that this is a one-time thing and work to put it in your past so you can move into your continued future together. A cent for your thoughts. Communication is the key to every great relationship according to anyone who knows anything. Communication is especially difficult when you have to tell someone you love something that will hurt and upset them. However, if you keep holding it in, you will only allow it to get worse before you finally blurt it out. You should take time to consider how you will say what needs to be said and then find an appropriate time to share your feelings. It is not you, it is me. Of all of the sayings mentioned here, this is the only one that is a warning. Do NOT use this saying in healing from infidelity. The blame does not all fall on one person. Even if you were cheated on, take some responsibility for the situation. It is always easier to blame the other person, but if you split the fault and realize what each of you did to contribute to the event, you will be able to move on to a brighter future. Just because it’s simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy. It’s simple to get married. Get a license, say “I do” and move in together. That’s the simple part. But marriage is not easy. It’s a full-time job, a full-time commitment and it needs to be worked on every day. Every day. The steepness of the cliffs and valleys of a marriage are measured by your ability to communicate, to bend but not break, and to forgive. Time heals all wounds. This one’s saved for last. It’s probably the oldest cliche there is and it’s the truest one of the bunch. It goes back to the first cliche in our list because once we get past the initial situation, resolve and forgive, then it’s just a matter of time. Of moving on to bigger and better things. To let this pass and to grow. These adages and wise sayings are not only good to remember in surviving adultery. They are also the keys to a happy and successful marriage. Hopefully these tips and reminders will help you survive infidelity should it happen in your relationship.
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